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Should your employer know about your divorce?

On Behalf of | Dec 18, 2023 | Firm News

The end of your marriage is an incredibly personal matter. Must it affect your work too? The reality is that the effects of divorce can reach many areas of your life, including your career. With the risk of unwelcome scrutiny and gossip, the decision to discuss your divorce with your employer demands careful deliberation.

When is disclosing your divorce necessary?

You are under no obligation to tell your employer about your divorce. Still, it might be necessary if it starts getting in the way of your work. Divorce can cause much stress, which can make it hard to focus, work and meet goals.

In addition, you may need time off for court appearances or divorce mediation. Talking about such personal matters at work can be uncomfortable, but it might help take some load off your shoulders. When honest about their struggles, workers sometimes find their bosses sympathetic and supportive.

Besides, you may have to notify human resources so they can update your employee paperwork, such as your health care plan and tax information.

How to talk about your divorce at work

Your divorce is your business, but word can spread quickly. The best way to manage a personal crisis is to take charge.

When discussing your divorce with your employer, leave out the personal details. Give your boss just enough information to understand your situation.

What about your co-workers? Doing poorly at work can affect them, too. They don’t need to know everything, but telling them you’re going through a tough time can earn their sympathy.  Being careful not to take advantage of their kindness is helpful. Keep a cheerful outlook and get things done as best you can.

Getting a divorce isn’t easy, but it’s doable with the right people by your side. If you have any legal concerns, you may seek counsel from a compassionate attorney. Maintaining an air of professionalism may go a long way, no matter how you choose to address your divorce at work.